We think relevance and relate-ability are the secrets to spiritual success. And yet, in truth, a dying world needs you to be with God more than it needs you to be “with it.” That’s true for me as a pastor and true for you as a mother, father, brother, sister, child, grandparent, friend, Bible study leader, computer programmer, bank teller, barista, or CEO. Your friends and family, your colleagues and kids – they don’t need you to do miracles or transform civilization. They need you to be holy. As Horatius Bonar (another Scottish preacher and a friend of M’Cheyne) reminds us, holiness is not measured by “one great heroic act or might martyrdom…It is of small things that a great life is made up.”
Holiness is the sum of a million little things – the avoidance of little evils and little foibles, the setting aside of little bits of worldliness and little acts of compromise, the putting to death of little inconsistencies and little indiscretions, the attention to little duties and little dealings, the hard work of little self-denials and little self-restraints, the cultivation of little benevolences and little forbearances, Are you trustworthy? Are you kind? Are you patient? Are you joyful? Do you love? these qualities, worked out in all the little things of life, determine whether you are an ugly spiritual eyesore or growing up into a good-looking Christian.
– Kevin DeYoung, The Hole in Our Holiness, pp. 144-145.